Inspired by Miss Carrie Ball from cballpetbereavement.co.uk I thought I would do an A - Z topics list.
Starting with A... Anniversaries.
A death anniversary isn’t exactly something you celebrate.
The year of the ‘firsts’ is particularly difficult. The first Christmas, Mother’s and Father’s Day, and other holidays that we used to celebrate with our pets. The first time I drove past the vet without you, or your favourite park. When you catch up with dog parents and they ask where you are...
Your mind will undoubtedly be preoccupied with thoughts of your pet on their anniversary, so plan ahead. Take the day off work if you need to (did she really say that?) Yes, yes, I did. If you are distracted, you can’t concentrate or focus on work tasks, so don’t feel ashamed about taking a self care day.
What can you do on the anniversary day?
🥰 Be around people who understand the depth of your loss. 🎾 Do something that makes you feel closer to your pet. 🕯 Have a ritual, light a candle, say a prayer or speak to them. Let them know how much you miss them. ⚱️ Hold their ashes or visit their resting place. Play a song that reminds you of them. 🖼 Focus on the good memories, reminisce over photos and video. 😥 Allow yourself to have a good cry. At the end of the day, do what you feel is right for you.
Over the years, I have managed to detach from the ‘date of death’ of my pets. I remember each of them fondly, their funny little quirks and habit. Talking about them keeps their memory alive.
"I remember the first day without you.... I’ve never been the same".