W- Where do you go and what do you do when your pet has died?
Whether your pet died unexpectedly or with a planned euthanasia, you often feel numb, and in disbelief immediately after. During this time, it is best not to make any rushed decisions.
Where do you go from here?
This may vary depending on how your pet died.
If it was unexpected, do you want to know how they died? Some Veterinarians can perform an autopsy on your pet if you wish. They may have to send tiss
You may have seen the recent segment on ‘The Project’ about the alarming rate of veterinarians and vet staff committing suicide. These people are highly educated and put enormous pressure on themselves to perform miracles. Vets often have to go to one consult room and deliver bad news, then immediately after, act all happy to vaccinate a litter of puppies. They work long hours, often not getting a lunch break, being bombarded by nurses asking them a mountain of questions, sta
😢 Who’s cutting onions?? 😭 You could be the toughest, strongest Person, but if your pet gets sick, injured, goes missing or passes away, cue the ugly cry. Crying of every type is welcome here. After a good cry, most people feel calmer and more resilient since their tears literally just drained stress hormones from their bodies. Crying is surrendering to what we are feeling in the moment. It could come from a series of ‘trigger stacking’ events (the straw that broke the came
Ever noticed how tv shows and movies gloss over death? It’s a taboo subject. The actor is lying in the hospital bed (with the catheter in the wrong way...) with their loving partner by their side. They say their final words (something profound) and they drift off to sleep, with the beeping machines carefully turned off by the nursing staff. If only it was like that in real life! I don’t have kids, but a friend recommended an episode of Bluey. It’s a tv program on ABC for Kids
S - Support
Seeking support from a therapist is like bra shopping. 👙
It will be a different fit for every body. One size does not fit all.
There are many ways of getting support, from family, friends, colleagues, help lines and face to face with a counsellor.
Counselling and therapy still unfortunately has a bit of a stigma to it... ‘Wow! You must be Really Depressed if you need to see a Counsellor!’
We all have our down days. And some days are definitely worse t
R. Rainbow bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are mad
Q - Quality of Life Scale (QOL)
Many pet parents struggle with when ‘the right time is’ to say goodbye. The QOL scale was created to help with this decision making.
Each part of the scale has a score of 10. 1 being a low score, 10 being the highest.
An acceptable quality of life score would be 35 or above. A score below 35, the pet would be in Palliative care and Euthanasia would need to be considered.
*Hurt. Is your pet in any pain? If they are on pain medication,
P - Pet Loss Support Groups
Many people feel out of their comfort zone, signing up or joining in with a group of strangers to discuss their feelings. Especially something as emotional and personal as Pet Loss.
Together with Passing Paws and Lawnswood, I run a monthly pet loss support group for anyone in need.
We keep the groups small (up to 6 people) so that everyone who attends will get a chance to participate.
You can stay anonymous if you prefer, but I do encour
O - Over it
Aren’t you over it already?? 😱 ??
First of all... I am very sorry if someone has said this to you.
I recently shared a Ted Talk clip from Nora McInerny, author of ‘The Hot Young Widows Club’.
To quote Nora, “a grieving person will move forward, but that doesn’t mean they ‘move on’.
‘People would have been like, "Dude, get over it. It's been X amount of time." The fact is it's neither. You do not get over something. You do not move on from this. You m
N - Normal
What is ‘Normal’?
: Grief is a normal and natural response to loss. And everyone’s grief journey is different and individual.
Normal experiences of grief include:
😢 Crying, feeling lonely, helpless, numb
🤕 Headaches, feeling exhausted
😴 Sleeping patterns change (sleeping more, or unable to sleep)
😞 Lack of energy
🧁 Changes in Appetite, not wanting to eat at all, or over indulging comfort foods
🧠 Difficulty concentrating on work or hobbies