Grief Myth - Be Strong
The Grief Recovery Method's sixth Myth of grief has always puzzled me. "Try and Be Strong" or "You have to Be Strong for (insert name here)" It is unfair to expect a grieving person to put on a brave face and pretend that life is fantastic. Your special loved one has just died... and who are you being strong for anyway? For too long we have been conditioned to act "Fine" or "OK" when others ask how we are doing... My heart has just been ripped out, but you know, I'm fine! Tha
Grief Myth - Replace the Loss
Sadly, I hear this one all the time... I’m sorry for your loss, and in the next breath, ‘When are you getting another one?” Children often say this out of love. They can see you are upset, so what would make you feel better? Another dog, cat, bird, horse, fish. A new pet would fill the void, the heartache, stop the tears, and distract you from the sadness.... wouldn’t it? For many children, the loss of pet is their first encounter to death. To state, ‘it’s ok, on the weekend
Grief Myth - Don't Be Sad
What a stupid thing to say to a grieving person! I have just lost the love of my life! I have every RIGHT to be sad, angry, upset, devastated. Letting the sadness out through tears, anger, and other emotions is normal and healthy. It is better to express how you are feeling then to bottle it up inside. Other Unhelpful phrases you may have heard: "Don't be sad, they are in a better place/they had a good life” "Don't feel Bad... it was "JUST A" ... (don't get me started!!) "He
Grief Myths - Keeping Busy
Life after loss is very challenging. You think about it... your routine goes out the window. A typical morning was, you wake up... cat in face, wanting to be fed and craving attention. You pat them, get up and feed them, make yourself a coffee, get ready for work... and there she is, rubbing against your legs after you have gotten out of the shower. You get home from work, and you used to take your dog for a walk to the park... you go to grab the lead, only to realise, they a
Grief Myths - Time Heals
How often have you heard the words ‘Time heals all wounds’ or “Grief just takes time”. If you are like me, you are left wondering... well how much time? Is there a time limit? It’s been over a year! How come I don’t feel better? The truth is, time is going to pass regardless. It’s what you do with that time that helps with the healing process. Time will not heal a broken heart any faster than it will heal a broken leg. With a broken leg, we seek medical treatment, you need xr
